Love Weekly with Jillian Turecki

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When Your Partner Shuts Down

3 days ago | newsletter.jillianturecki.com | Jillian Turecki

Hi there,There are few things more maddening in a relationship than this: You try to talk about something that matters — something that hurt, something you need — and your partner disappears. Not physically, perhaps, but emotionally. They retreat. They shut down. Suddenly, the person who once reached for you in bed, who laughed with you at dinner, becomes distant, cold, unreadable. This dynamic — where one person pursues and the other withdraws — is not rare.
Dating with a “Father Complex”

1 week ago | newsletter.jillianturecki.com | Jillian Turecki

Hi there,I recently received a DM with a question I’ve been asked over and over: “Do you have any advice for dating women who have a father complex?”I answered: I’d love for you to reconsider the question. Labeling a woman as having a “father complex” reduces her to a caricature. It turns her history into a pathology you believe you must manage, rather than a human story you’re invited to understand. We all carry relational wounds — yours included.
This is how I became securely attached

2 weeks ago | newsletter.jillianturecki.com | Jillian Turecki

Hi there,There’s a paradox at the heart of emotional security. The more we search for it in others, the more elusive it becomes. But the moment we begin to build it internally — through intentional practices and hard-won insight — it begins to shape every aspect of our lives, from our relationships to our sense of meaning and purpose. This is the story of how I became a secure woman.
Don’t fall in love with potential.

3 weeks ago | newsletter.jillianturecki.com | Jillian Turecki

Hi there,I have tried to change and save people in my life. I’ve tried to help them out of their own pain. I’ve tried to give them the world’s strongest support scaffolding to guide them toward healthier choices. So many of us have tried to see the best in the people we date — and to guide them toward their potential. We even see them as a project — an opportunity to build something better.
Don’t settle.

1 month ago | newsletter.jillianturecki.com | Jillian Turecki

Hi there,Tell me if this sounds familiar: You meet someone new, and the chemistry is instant and intense. The conversation is easy but not shallow — it feels totally natural to share feelings and experiences. It’s suddenly effortless to tell them things you’ve never said out loud or even to yourself, and you feel emotionally seen. The intensity is rare and unique, and you’re totally lit up.
When Your Life Is Not What You Thought It Would Be

1 month ago | newsletter.jillianturecki.com | Jillian Turecki

Hi there,Each and every one of us develops a life blueprint. It’s a combination of your beliefs, values, rules, and expectations about how life should be — and how your life is supposed to turn out. It’s a human inclination. It’s natural. We have blueprints for love and family: I’m going to get married by 28 and have two kids. We have blueprints for our friendships: We’ll get pregnant at the same time and our kids will be best friends. We have blueprints for money and for our careers.
Don’t date the person who thinks love is just a feeling.

1 month ago | newsletter.jillianturecki.com | Jillian Turecki

Hi there,No one teaches us how to love. And because we don’t really grow up with a true understanding and education of how to date, how to pick partners, how to build and sustain relationships, or even how to recover from heartbreak, so many of us are operating under a fundamental myth about love. We think love is a feeling. It means believing that relationships are easy and effortless.
The Truth About Limerence

1 month ago | newsletter.jillianturecki.com | Jillian Turecki

Hi there,Limerence is everywhere — including in my DMs and email inbox. I hear you: It’s on your mind and, in some cases, it’s wreaking havoc on your lives. Limerence is that uncontrollable obsession with another person — that intoxicating, crazy-making, manic stage at the very beginning. It’s infatuation with an extra dose of intensity. It’s a buzzword these days, but it’s not new — it’s been around forever. When I say that it’s crazy-making, I mean it: Limerence can turn us upside down.
The Myth Of The Right Partner

1 month ago | newsletter.jillianturecki.com | Jillian Turecki

Hi there,We decide who we build a life with — and it’s maybe the most important decision we’ll ever make. Understandably, we want to make the right choice for our life partner — but I want to add some nuance with a deep dive into “rightness,” because ultimately much of this conversation rests on a myth. Unquestionably, there are people out there who are right for you. And there are those who are very wrong for you.
From Insecure to Self-Worth: How To Regulate and Let Go

2 months ago | newsletter.jillianturecki.com | Jillian Turecki

Hi there,Last week, I laid out my first four radical lessons in self-love — the critical steps you can take to finally give yourself the love and care you deserve. I’m back with five more lessons about treating yourself better — and they also cover showing up better in relationships, so you can have the healthy, mature love you’ve been looking for. Each lesson comes with tough questions, journal prompts, or a somatic exercise. And as always — I want to hear from you. Let’s get into it.