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SOLICITED ADVICE #2: How to move on?

3 weeks ago | sherryning.com | Sherry Ning

Dear Sherry,I love your newsletter and Twitter [I am also on IG]. In your newsletter today, I saw that you are open to questions from your community. I have two that I'd like to ask:1. How do you not expose yourself to bad treatment? And a follow up about exposing yourself to bad treatment: how do you hold it and let it move out of your body once it has happened? 2. How can I create opportunities for people to leave?
SOLICITED ADVICE #1: What if I know too much?

1 month ago | sherryning.com | Sherry Ning

What is discernment and why is it a curse? —S.H.Follow along, mon cher ami:Oh, the burden of always being able to distinguish truth from illusion, signal from noise, right from wrong, real from fake. Do you feel like you’re unable to be gentle because you know too much? Has being sensitive made you cynical? Is ignorance always bliss? Keep reading with a 7-day free trialSubscribe to Sherry Ning to keep reading this post and get 7 days of free access to the full post archives.
Body dysmorphia

1 month ago | sherryning.com | Sherry Ning

I’m at Othership staring at the backside of an Asian girl with an ass too fat for her ethnicity. Kardashian-washed, it sticks out like a shelf. The fabric of her bathing suit sits perfectly still in her silicone valley because the cheeks don’t even move when she walks. I hate it. I think your procedures should only look as natural as what your parents could’ve given you. But whatever, it’s not my ass, I shouldn’t care. I hope she’s happier now than whatever she was before.
I WANT TO BE BEAUTIFUL

1 month ago | sherryning.com | Sherry Ning |Camille Sojit Pejcha |Matt Starr |SOPHIA EFTHIMIATOU

But first, the thank you’s:Shout out to for being an amazing host, and for inviting me and for making this happen—go read right now, and my talented co-readers , , , , , , and .
Just do whatever you like

2 months ago | sherryning.com | Sherry Ning |Lordess Foudre

You want it. You get a chance to have it. Then you spoil it by making yourself feel like you don’t deserve it. You soak in self-resentment until the you kinda forget about it (but also not really). Why do you self-sabotage? It’s not that you don’t know what you want. You know, and you’re certain of it when you see it. In fact, you quietly look for it when you’re alone. You know the shape of it, the weight of it, the way it would settle in your hands and make you glow if you had it.
Diary of A Lover Girl

Aug 7, 2024 | sherryning.com | Sherry Ning

I can’t stand our mechanical times of Find My Friends and Oura rings. We’ve smothered the magic out of love with hygienic rationality and therapy-speak. Love is only powerful when it is magical. You know what therapy lacks? It lacks that invisible plasma of energy that feels like desire or longing. It lacks serendipity and coincidence. It lacks soul. It lacks yearning. It lacks happy accidents that bring people together for a shared lifetime. I don’t want clinical love.
How to Write

Jul 6, 2024 | sherryning.com | Sherry Ning

Writing is like acting…The point of writing is so your writing disappears. Let me explain:Good actors disappear; you only see the character they’re playing. Bad actors draw all your attention to their acting. Good writers disappear; you only see the story they’re telling. Bad writers draw all your attention to their choice of words. Good actors are good because we remember their characters better than we remember them.