Adeyinka Odutuyo

Lagos, Nigeria

Culture Writer at Zikoko

Lifestyle and Entertainment Journalist | Culture writer @zikokomag | Ex: @legitngnews | Best Entertainment Editor @legitngnews in 2020, 2021

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The Husband Who Didn’t Realise Marriage Would Be This Permanent

1 week ago | zikoko.com | Adeyinka Odutuyo

*Dewunmi (31) grew up fast and never expected life to hand him anything on a platter — not even marriage. In this week’s Marriage Diaries, he shares how responsibility shaped his idea of partnership, why boundaries matter, and why he believes love isn’t enough. This is a look into Dewunmi’s marriage diary. My idea of marriage has changed many times throughout my life. As a teenager, I thought it was a romantic fantasy. You meet your person, fall in love, and everything becomes soft and happy forever.
Love Life: We Fell for Each Other at a Job Interview

1 week ago | zikoko.com | Adeyinka Odutuyo

Love Life is a Zikoko weekly series about love, relationships, situationships, entanglements and everything in between. Lauretta: It was around the last few months of 2023; I forget exactly when. I was looking for a job in finance and landed an interview after searching for a bit. When I got to the venue, I saw Joe, who had also come to interview for the same job. The interview was a very long process, so we interacted a lot. He sounded really smart — like the kind of guy I could like.
14 Nigerians Open Up on Their Strictest Intimacy Rules

1 week ago | zikoko.com | Adeyinka Odutuyo

Genital meet and greet can be sweet, messy, funny or intense, but one thing it should never be is boundary-less. Whether it’s “don’t touch my belly button” or “don’t talk to me while we’re doing it,” everyone has that one thing that must never happen in the heat of the moment. We spoke to 14 Nigerians about the strictest intimacy rules they live by, and why they’ll never compromise on them. From spicy food bans to no butt play these entries will have you seriously reevaluating your own list.
I Married My Second Wife At 30. A Third Isn’t Off The Table

1 week ago | zikoko.com | Adeyinka Odutuyo

*Kunle*, 30, is an engineer and one of 12 siblings — 10 of them women. He never imagined he’d be married to two wives by this age, but six months into his polygynous journey, he’s already thinking of what life would look like if he took a third. In this story, he talks about growing up in a polygamous home, how intimacy and infertility shaped his choices, and why he believes polygyny is a duty more men should take seriously.
I Went to the Strip Club Without My Wife. I’m Still Trying to Forgive Myself

2 weeks ago | zikoko.com | Adeyinka Odutuyo

Gbenga*, 32, is the kind of man who prides himself on routine: the quiet comfort of a Friday night beer followed by pizza and ice cream treats for his wife. But one unexpected birthday hangout with old friends led him somewhere he never imagined — a strip club on Lagos Island. In this story, he unpacks the guilt of being touched in ways he couldn’t confess, the silence that followed, and why he still wants to go back — this time, with his wife by his side.
Good Night Messages For Her, Him And Long-Distance Love

2 weeks ago | zikoko.com | Adeyinka Odutuyo

Sending a good night message might seem small, but it’s often the last love message your partner reads before falling asleep. Whether it’s a simple “Sleep well” or something more poetic, good night messages help couples stay emotionally connected. “I look forward to my boyfriend’s good night texts every day,” says Nneka, 29. “Even if we’ve had a long day, it reminds me that we’re still good.”For Seun, 34, it’s less about the words and more about the consistency.
Love Life: We Broke Up, But Still Make Love Like Soulmates

2 weeks ago | zikoko.com | Adeyinka Odutuyo

Love Life is a Zikoko weekly series about love, relationships, situationships, entanglements and everything in between. Hannah: It was during an early morning GNS class in 2021. The lecturer asked a question, and this really good-looking guy whom I’d never seen before stood up to answer. Quite a number of people also looked in his direction because no one seemed to have seen him around before. Tade: Actually, no one had. It was my first day of class as a direct entry student. Hannah: Right.
The Wife That Expected Her Marriage To Be A Romantic Comedy

2 weeks ago | zikoko.com | Adeyinka Odutuyo

*Dasola, 33, got married in 2020. She expected a smooth transition into a fairytale life with the man she loved Four years in, she’s realising that love isn’t enough. Sacrifice, self-awareness, and compromise are the true foundations of a solid marriage. This is a look into Dasola’s marriage diary. I always imagined marriage would be soft, picture-perfect, and easy — like the romcoms I grew up watching.
Interview With Akara: “You Think You Can Fry Me Without Sacrifice?”

2 weeks ago | zikoko.com | Adeyinka Odutuyo

Zikoko arrives at a remote village deep in southwestern Nigeria. The guide, who refused to go beyond the seventh footpath, pointed to a thick palm grove and said, “If you hear your name, don’t answer. Just keep walking.”After navigating the narrow path, Zikoko arrives at a clearing. A battered aluminium pot simmers over an open flame. The air smells of heated oil and spiced beans. A sudden gust of wind blows out the lantern. Then suddenly, a voice. Akara: You came alone?
I Dated a Man of God. It Was the Closest Thing to Hell

2 weeks ago | zikoko.com | Adeyinka Odutuyo

I was looking for stories about relationships that left lasting scars when I came across *Bimpe, 29. In this story, she recounts how reconnecting with a university acquaintance turned pastor pulled her into a controlling, isolating relationship that nearly broke her spirit — and how she eventually found the strength to walk away. As told to AdeyinkaI met *Gbolahan when I was in 100 level. He was in his final year at the time and used to organise tutorials for junior students.