Alexander Cheves

2 weeks ago | out.com | Alexander Cheves

I am 42 and have been out as gay for 25 years. But I have never been in a relationship. I seem to only attract women and I cannot figure out why. I have tried using gay dating apps but I feel very uncomfortable doing so. I have met a ton of shady characters on them, fake profiles, men hitting me up for money after a week, and guys asking me to webcam without even meeting me in person. What do you think I should do differently? — Name WithheldHey cowboy. So, you’ve tried apps and websites.

2 weeks ago | out.com | Alexander Cheves

A minimalist pile of candy in a Smithsonian gallery has sparked a firestorm over memory, censorship, and who controls the legacy of one of America’s most famous queer artists. In January, Out published a blistering opinion piece accusing the Félix González-Torres Foundation of sanitizing the queer identity of the late artist whose legacy it represents. The article ignited a flurry of online debate and became the magazine’s most-read story that month. A deeper investigation felt necessary.

1 month ago | out.com | Alexander Cheves

My partner says he wants to get fisted, which he knows I love. But when we have sex, he never gets hard or cums. He says the sex is brilliant, but is he just doing all this to please me? How can I tell he’s enjoying it if I get no reaction? — Name Withheld Howdy. Many people think that, with feelings like doubt or jealousy, “where there’s smoke, there’s fire.” I do not.

1 month ago | out.com | Alexander Cheves

After seven years as a browser-only cruising platform, Sniffies officially launched an iOS version March 3. As an app, it joins the ranks of competitors like Grindr and Scruff. But unlike those, with their moderated profile pics (no nudity allowed) and “looking for” options ranging from networking to relationships, Sniffies is still focused on being a tool for finding real, in-person sex.

1 month ago | pride.com | Alexander Cheves

This story originally ran on Advocate.com in June 2017. As you're hitting the streets this Pride season to fight rollbacks of our rights, don't forget to celebrate the kind of sex you like to have -- and protest efforts to regulate it. You're also marching for sexual liberation. Sex and Pride have always gone together. Here's why:New York's Stonewall Inn was a prime cruising zone.