Allie Volpe

Philadelphia

Senior Reporter at Vox

Senior reporter @voxdotcom, bylines in @theatlantic @rollingstone @nytimes @washingtonpost @playboy @thecut @vice @guardian etc. | [email protected]

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Articles

How to equally prioritize both friendship and romantic relationships

2 weeks ago | vox.com | Allie Volpe

Like many Americans, the writer Rhaina Cohen is shopping for a home. Unlike many Americans, she’s searching for a house to live in with her friends and their families, a unique setup that sometimes raises eyebrows. One recent interaction with her realtor crystalized the disparate attitudes many people hold toward friendship versus romantic relationships.
How to equally prioritize both friendship and romantic relationships

2 weeks ago | buff.ly | Allie Volpe

Like many Americans, the writer Rhaina Cohen is shopping for a home. Unlike many Americans, she’s searching for a house to live in with her friends and their families, a unique setup that sometimes raises eyebrows. One recent interaction with her realtor crystalized the disparate attitudes many people hold toward friendship versus romantic relationships.
Beware of this silent, seething relationship-killer

3 weeks ago | vox.com | Allie Volpe

For the last year and a half, Angela has been waging a silent corporate war with her boss. When the two women started working together in finance, they were peers. Even then, Angela felt this coworker was a little too judgmental when Angela took time off work, a little too comfortable asking Angela why she was avoiding her in the hallways. (Angela says she never purposely shirked her.)But about seven months ago, the colleague was promoted to be Angela’s manager.
Should I be close to my in-laws? How to navigate in-law relationships.

3 weeks ago | vox.com | Allie Volpe

Anna can’t exactly pinpoint when her relationship with her sister-in-law started to sour. Rather, it was a slow unraveling. When the two met over 20 years ago through their now-husbands, who are brothers, Anna actually preferred spending time with her future sister-in-law. “We would hang out all the time,” says Anna, who is being referred to by her middle name so she can speak freely about her family.
Why do we think relationships require hard work?

3 weeks ago | vox.com | Allie Volpe

If you’ve been to an engagement party, bridal shower, or wedding, you’ve probably heard a well-meaning relative offer these sage words of wisdom: Marriage is work. Hard work. Persistent work. A lifelong project. The adage is instructive, but it’s also a warning — this relationship will try your patience, and for it to endure, you must be willing to put forth the effort. This is undeniably true. All relationships require maintenance to survive.
Global Flourishing Study: Some young adults are struggling to flourish

1 month ago | vox.com | Allie Volpe

The kids, it’s been suggested, are not okay. For decades, established research showed that happiness and well-being levels tend to peak during youth in your late teens and 20s, drop during midlife, and rise again in old age. But this U-shaped happiness curve is now morphing, according to the results from a recent global study: Many of the world’s young people are not flourishing.
How much should I clean my house before hosting? Not as much as you think.

1 month ago | vox.com | Allie Volpe

Inviting people over to hang out at my house is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, I don’t need to leave home. On the other, I’m plagued by anxiety, not because I don’t enjoy seeing my friends, but because of all the tidying and cleaning I feel pressured to do even for a casual evening of watching TV. In an instant, I transform into my mother, frantically scrubbing and organizing.
The secret to actually trusting each other

1 month ago | vox.com | Allie Volpe

Among all the mental calculations and decisions we make each day as complex social beings, we choose, actively or implicitly, to trust. By staying in our relationships, we trust our partners won’t betray us. By showing up at the stop, we trust that the bus will arrive. By making the reservation, we trust our friends will show up for dinner. But that trust is fraying.
Sibling relationships in adulthood: Can you be friends with your siblings?

2 months ago | vox.com | Allie Volpe

Ashley Pro lived with her sister Dennice for 28 years. They moved in together after leaving their childhood home, and if Pro hadn’t been transferred to a different city for work, the sisters would likely still be roommates. Pro, a 29-year-old director for an after-school program in Rancho Cucamonga, California, initially worried that any distance would drive a wedge in their relationship. She’d never known a life without the daily presence of Dennice, who is only a year older.
Planning weeks ahead with friends? Why we do it and how to see friends more often.

2 months ago | vox.com | Allie Volpe

Mikaela Shafer values spending time with her friends, and if that means booking a flea market day three months in advance, she considers it a small price to pay. For a while, Shafer, 38, and her friends found themselves in the throes of schedule coordination hell. One person would attempt to make plans on a particular day, but another couldn’t make it. Somebody else would offer a new date, but that one was no good either.