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2 weeks ago | 
goodmenproject.com | Connell Barrett
I’ve been single for eight years, and dating just never seems to work for me. On paper, I know I’m a good catch. I’m 6’3”, pretty outgoing, and I’m a firefighter. I feel like I should be doing well. But I’m not! Women tend to ghost me, or they say, “You seem great, but I’m just not feeling it.” Maybe I’m not interesting enough or rich enough. Maybe I’m too negative on dates. And I don’t even enjoy the ones that go well. It’s all such a grind. I hate having to find hilarious, witty things to say.
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2 months ago | 
goodmenproject.com | Connell Barrett
It feels like the world is saying that being a kind, respectful man isn’t enough these days. Trump dominates the news, Elon Musk is hailed as a bold risk-taker, and Reddit is full of posts about how women want real men, not “simps.” Everywhere I look, I’m being told that loud, brash hyper-masculinity is what women want. But I’m a shy, thoughtful guy. I see women as equals. Does being a nice guy hold me back with women? Can I even compete?
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Mar 18, 2025 | 
wikihow.com | Kelli Miller |Bertha Crombet |Connell Barrett
Download Article What to do and say if you want to stay in the girlfriend category Download Article When you’re in a relationship with someone amazing, you’re probably striving to be the best partner you can be. However, being too involved in your partner’s life before you’re married can actually backfire, especially if it’s a relatively new relationship.
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Dec 26, 2024 | 
wikihow.com | Connell Barrett
Download Article A relaxed & fun way to describe your intentions on Tinder and more Download Article On dating apps, the "short term fun" tag is used when someone is looking for a casual fling or hookup with no strings attached. They aren’t looking for something long term.
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Jul 29, 2024 | 
wikihow.com | Connell Barrett |Hannah Madden |Cher Gopman
Download Article Get her digits without coming across as cheesy or way too forward Download Article You’ve been chatting with a girl on Tinder, and it’s going really well, but taking it from a convo on the app to a convo over text can feel a little tough. Fortunately, there are tons of different ways you can ask for a girl’s digits without seeming pushy.
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Jul 29, 2024 | 
goodmenproject.com | Connell Barrett
–The #MeToo Era has me in my head about first kisses. I don’t want to get in trouble or creep women out. So instead of going for a kiss on the lips, on my recent first dates I’ve kissed them on the forehead. I thought I was being a gentleman, but one woman said it was weird and ghosted me. I’m confused! Should I stop doing the forehead kiss? Should I just wait till she kisses me? —Douglas, 44, Columbus, OhioI love the forehead kiss—if you’re a proud dad dropping your daughter off at college.
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Jul 23, 2024 | 
wikihow.com | Connell Barrett |Dev Murphy
Co-authored by: Dating Coach This article was co-authored by Connell Barrett and by wikiHow staff writer, Dev Murphy, MA. Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City.
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Jun 18, 2024 | 
wikihow.com | Connell Barrett |Hannah Madden
Download Article Give your girlfriend or loved one reassurance with these tricks Download Article We all have moments of insecurity, and knowing someone’s there to support you can make a world of a difference. If you’re in a relationship with an insecure girl or you have a loved one who is super insecure, it can be tough to figure out what to say in the moment to fully support them.
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Jun 3, 2024 | 
goodmenproject.com | Connell Barrett
I spend many hours each week on sites like Reddit where those “Red Pill” guys say that women only want alpha males. They say you have to act like a jerk or a bad boy, or else you’re a simp. It all feels gross to me, but being nice hasn’t helped my dating life. Should I act like an alpha male? —Randy, 23, Austin, TexasI’d rather swallow warm Red Bull than swallow the Red Pill. The Red Pill is a Reddit community where frustrated men go to air their loathing toward women.
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May 20, 2024 | 
goodmenproject.com | Connell Barrett
I go on a lot of first dates, and women ask the same basic question: “What was your last relationship like?” The truth? I’ve never had a relationship. I’ve never even had sex! I’m still a virgin. (In my 20s, I focused on career, not dating.) When I get the relationship question, I lie like a rug. I act like I’m a player, and I refer to my “many” sex partners from the past. I even mention an imaginary former fiancé of mine. I feel shame that I’m a virgin and that I’m so inexperienced.
