Debra K Fileta

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Dave & Ann’s Conflict Cycle: Debra Fileta – FamilyLife – A Cru Ministry

Nov 27, 2024 | familylife.com | Debra K Fileta

FamilyLife Today® Is conflict always bad?
5 Ways to Cut Costs and Stay Grateful This Thanksgiving

Nov 12, 2024 | crosswalk.com | Debra K Fileta

Author and Licensed Counselor Updated Nov 05, 2024 “It’s the most wonderful time of the year….” Or is it? Often times the hustle, bustle and financial cost of this time of year can rob us of the joys of the holidays. I recently talked to a woman from church who responded to my inquiry regarding what she was doing for Thanksgiving by saying, “Don’t remind me! I have so much left to do!!”.
What Not to Say to Singles

Oct 27, 2024 | relevantmagazine.com | Debra K Fileta

The nights are getting longer and the air is getting colder, which can only mean one thing: it’s officially cuffing season. It’s the time of year when, for some reason, new relationships begin or old ones get engaged. It’s a time to celebrate love, but it’s also a tough time to be single. Not because you aren’t dating anyone, but because friends, families, even co-workers try to cheer up their single friends with some well-intentioned encouragement.
Are You Running on Fumes? Here’s How to Refill Your Emotional Tank

Sep 6, 2024 | relevantmagazine.com | Debra K Fileta

I’m about to ask you a really important question: How full do you feel right now? I don’t mean physically full — as in you just scarfed down your dinner and you’re feeling stuffed past the point of no return — I mean emotionally full. What I’m really talking about is the fullness of purpose, energy, motivation, peace, joy, creativity, strength, hope and connection. Maybe it’s easier for you to assess the answer to my question when you think about the opposite end of the spectrum.
How to Get Past Your Past

Aug 15, 2024 | relevantmagazine.com | Debra K Fileta

Often in life, our greatest enemy isn’t a person, external obstacle or impossible situation—it’s our internal struggle with our past. For Andrea, that was exactly the case. She was stuck in her past. Unable to get over the struggles of her youth, she kept looking back. Fixating on the neglect, reliving the abuse, analyzing the rejection. Twenty years later and she’s still asking why, trying to make sense of it all. Yet by continually looking backward, she is losing sight of her present and future.
How to Be Single in Your Twenties

Aug 9, 2024 | relevantmagazine.com | Debra K Fileta

I used to believe that your twenties was the best time in life to snag a mate. From my perspective as a 13-year-old girl, the twenties seemed like the prime years of life. A time for independence, freedom and for falling in love. I imagined I’d be young, energetic and inspired. Finding love would be easy in my twenties, I thought. I don’t know that I believe that anymore. Now that I’m married and also past my twenties, I look back at some of those earlier years and realize how little I actually knew.
Are You Sure You're Ready For Love?

Aug 7, 2024 | relevantmagazine.com | Debra K Fileta

As a professional counselor, I have worked with countless couples whose problems and strife stemmed from the fact that they were desperate for love, though not necessarily prepared for what love would actually entail. There is a stark difference between wanting love and being ready for love.
How to Pray for Your Love Life (When You Don’t Have One)

Jul 26, 2024 | relevantmagazine.com | Debra K Fileta

It’s hard to pray for something—or someone—when you have no idea whether or not they even exist. I remember being single and just trying too hard to picture the type of person I would one day marry. I tried to imagine what he would look like, sound like, and what his personality would be. (And can I just say, I ended up so completely wrong on all three accounts). When you’re single with no prospects in sight, it’s easy to spend your days wishing, dreaming, hoping and even worrying.
The Biggest Reason Social Media Could Be Ruining Your Relationships

Jul 16, 2024 | relevantmagazine.com | Debra K Fileta
How Do I Know If I'm Ready For Marriage?

Jul 15, 2024 | relevantmagazine.com | Debra K Fileta

Often, in the pursuit of love, we get so caught up trying to find the right person, that we end up losing ourselves. But just as important as it is to find someone who has the qualities we want, it’s important to take some time to look inward, making sure that we are meeting the very standards we are looking for in a partner. After all, if you’re going to have a “list” of qualities you want in a partner, then you should also have a corresponding list of qualities you want to exhibit.