Harris O'Malley

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Blogger at Dr. NerdLove

Freelance Journalist and Host at Freelance

I write the stuff your friends share on Facebook at http://t.co/1gagcrJaLJ

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Articles

Was My Friend Leading Me On? - Ask Dr. Nerdlove

1 week ago | uexpress.com | Harris O'Malley

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Hello! Thank you for taking the time to read this message. I’m currently a junior in college, and in February, my two best friends ended their friendship with me. Allow me to provide some context:Firstly, I am 21, and nonbinary. These two friends, I will call them A and B, are both male, 21– however, all of us are transgender, so I feel it is important to note that we were all socialized as women.
I’m The Reason My Friend Group Fell Apart. What Do I Do Now? - Ask Dr. Nerdlove

1 week ago | uexpress.com | Harris O'Malley

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So I’m a young adult (almost college age) who’s never dated before, and I need help figuring out this complex scenario between my friend and I. Here is the context: he’s a cishet man, I’m questioning but my current label is “aroace nonbinary trans man”. We met a few months ago and hit it off immediately. We’re also going to attend the same college. He didn’t know I was trans at first (I’m pre-trans and girlmode sometimes) but he’s okay with it.
Help, I’m an Ugly Loser and Nothing Will Fix Me Except a Hot Girlfriend!

1 week ago | goodmenproject.com | Harris O'Malley

So my life is Bad. Life sucks, every woman I have feelings for are happy with men I hate, and no women wants me because I’m ugly looking, and I’m a 31 year old kissless virgin so that says it all about how much of a loser I am. Seeing women I’m miserable over with men I loathe and hate, ruins my life because no one cares about me and my loneliness.
How Do I Learn To Trust My Kinky Partners? - Ask Dr. Nerdlove

1 week ago | uexpress.com | Harris O'Malley

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So I’m a young adult (almost college age) who’s never dated before, and I need help figuring out this complex scenario between my friend and I. Here is the context: he’s a cishet man, I’m questioning but my current label is “aroace nonbinary trans man”. We met a few months ago and hit it off immediately. We’re also going to attend the same college. He didn’t know I was trans at first (I’m pre-trans and girlmode sometimes) but he’s okay with it.
Did I Get Dumped for Being Bad at Sex?

2 weeks ago | goodmenproject.com | Harris O'Malley

Dear Doc. I am 39-year-old male virgin. Thanks to blog similar to yours, but in my language, I started working about my mental hangups and, after almost 20 years, started putting myself out again. I met woman on dating site and after 2.5 months of talking to each other by communicator (1-5 hours a day, literally about everything, including flirting that edged on phone sex) we met in real life (weekend in rented place about halfway between our towns). Our physical relationship lasted all of 4 hours.
I Thought I Was Asexual But Now I’m Not Sure! - Ask Dr. Nerdlove

2 weeks ago | uexpress.com | Harris O'Malley

I was questioning my romantic/sexual attraction when we first met, so I flirted with him and he seems to like it. I am pretty sure he is in love with me (he’s dropped hints), but he also knows I identify as aroace. Still, I feel more comfortable with him than anyone else. I have a LOT of weird qualities that he just accepts or understands. I’m normally very afraid of touch, but I don’t mind touching him and have even held his hand.
Do I Need To Move Out From My Parent’s House To Date? - Ask Dr. Nerdlove

2 weeks ago | uexpress.com | Harris O'Malley

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a huge fan of your articles. They have been helping me through some tough times in my personal life. I don’t want this to be too long, I’ll try to be as thorough as I can within reason. For most of my young life, I’ve had immense social anxiety at middle school, high school, and college and beyond. I was very much in my head at all times, especially when it came to engaging with women or just making friends of a certain caliber or perceived value for me in my mind.
How Do I Date and Make Friends When I’m Broke?

2 weeks ago | goodmenproject.com | Harris O'Malley

Dear Dr. NerdLove:So, let’s cut to the chase. I don’t have a job, and have not had constant work for over a year now, just one temporary job between. I am working on that; I’m applying to jobs and studying for industry certifications to make my resume more attractive. But the thing that’s really hard on me is that being unemployed can be really lonely, most days being just sitting at home.
Isn’t Dating Supposed to Be Fun?

2 weeks ago | goodmenproject.com | Harris O'Malley

Dear Dr. NerdLove: Years ago, I decided to start journaling…I keep two journals, one for life and one for dating…I am about to hit 50 (bleh) and I realized something startling and went through my journals to verify…in my 40’s (an entire decade now), I went on one single date that I legit consider as being really fun. One. Over that span I went out with 35 different women on more than a hundred dates and all of one was fun.
I Don’t Know How To Stop My Social Anxiety Dictate My Life! - Ask Dr. Nerdlove

2 weeks ago | uexpress.com | Harris O'Malley

I had this chip on my shoulder as far back as high school, when I discovered my passion for making music. I wanted to be a rapper, still do, to some extent. I figured my social anxiety is crippling, but one day I’ll be famous and it’ll all be worth it, and this was my excuse to not try for a very long time consistently. I was afraid of being judged, I was afraid of being embarrassed, I was afraid of being really killed, rejected. I carried this fear with me well into my adult life.