James Michael Sama

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👨🏻‍💻 | #1 Love writer on @medium. 🚀 | Coach & Speaker for high achievers seeking deeper fulfillment & love. 👨‍👨‍👧‍👧 | Family, cars, fitness, style

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Single & Dating? 9 Powerful Reminders

2 weeks ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

Member-only storyBeing single isn’t a problem, it’s an opportunity. James Michael Sama·Follow7 min read·--“I just want to skip the dating part and go right to the phase where we’re comfortable on the couch together.”This is what one of my private coaching students said to me on one of our recent calls. Relatable? Yes. Realistic? Eh, not really. For anyone single and dating in 2025 (2025…crikey, how did that happen?), though, you probably feel this in your soul.
15 Essential Traits of an Amazing Life Partner

2 weeks ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

Member-only storyHappy spouse, happy house. James Michael Sama·Follow13 min read·--Actions, by nature, are fleeting. When someone does “a thing,” that thing, then, is over. Its impact may be lasting, but the action itself is short-lived. This is why consistent action in a relationship is necessary. Just because someone makes you feel special once time doesn’t mean that feeling is going to last forever.
10 Unhealthy Mindsets Most People Have About Love

3 weeks ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

Member-only storyYou just might be blocking out Mr. or Mrs. Right. James Michael Sama·Follow10 min read·--One thing that has always fascinated me about us as humans is that, one of the most fundamental pieces of our existence often goes the least understood. That is — relationships. In every other area of life, we seek knowledge, develop skills, make a plan, set goals, create a strategy.
The Gentleman’s Guide to Dating: How to Be a Man in a Sea of Boys

1 month ago | goodmenproject.com | James Michael Sama

—In a world where chivalry and courtship seem to be the stuff of history books, and men complain that they shouldn’t have to pay for dinner if women want equality – it is plain to see that we need to bring some dignity back to dating and relationships. My belief is that there are so many mixed messages about what women want in a relationship, that we, as guys, can easily get confused. Does she want her independence? Does she want to be courted? Will she be offended if you pick up the whole bill?
How to Stop Settling: 12 Things You Deserve in Your Relationship

1 month ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

Member-only storyIt’s time to raise your standards. James Michael Sama·Follow6 min read·--I believe one of the big reasons many people don’t get what they deserve in a relationship is because they haven’t even taken the time to define what those things are in the first place. Have you done the work to gain certainty around what you want? Or, even more importantly, what you need? That’s to say — the deeper underlying reasons behind your wants.
The Female Perspective: What’s She Wondering About You?

1 month ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

Member-only storyA peek inside her mind…James Michael Sama·Follow12 min read·--Sometimes as men, it’s difficult for us to step outside of our own perspectives in order to understand what women truly value, want, and need from a life partner. We do, after all, think differently, which presents challenges when we’re attempting to understand a woman’s thought process by looking through our own lens. Do we have the qualities that women are actually looking for?
Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

1 month ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

Member-only story(And some solutions to try before throwing in the towel). James Michael Sama·Follow11 min read·--You’ve got that sneaking feeling that you just might be going down the wrong path with the wrong person, but you’re not quite ready to admit it yet. It’s understandable, we’ve all been there before. Whether you’ve been together weeks, or months, or even years, there is a very real resistance to let go of a relationship that you once thought might be “it” for you.
10 Traits You’ll Find in all Happy Relationships

1 month ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

Member-only storyWhat are the common threads? James Michael Sama·Follow6 min read·--The right person will make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else. Every relationship is different. We’re all attracted to different things, love in different ways, have different wants, needs, and desires. There is no “right way” to love…as long as you’re not hurting anyone. How you were born to love is the right way for you and your partner.
This is What a Real Man Looks Like

1 month ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

Member-only storyBecause society seems confused. James Michael Sama·Follow8 min read·--As someone who grew up around strong male and female role models, my controversial opinion is this:Boys and men are seriously lacking good quality male role models to look up to in modern society. That is one of the reasons I started writing, speaking, and coaching more than a decade ago, in an attempt to be an arbiter of logical and civilized discussion around what it takes to be an emotionally mature man.
5 Overlooked Qualities of The Best Romantic Partners

2 months ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

Member-only storyThe small things really do matter the most. James Michael Sama·Follow7 min read·--I have a close friend who is a very successful businessman. Years ago he gave me a piece of advice that I’ll never forget:If you want to be successful in business, you should NOT pursue the glamorous things. At first, this confused me. He, like many of us, enjoys the finer things in life and lives what I’d consider an opulent lifestyle.