James Michael Sama

5 days ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

It’s not about looking better, it’s about thinking better. Men are more confused now than ever before when it comes to dating — and who can blame them? Men’s roles in virtually all areas of life are shifting, which presents some uncertainty. In a world where women are outperforming and out-earning men more and more frequently, where is the value that men bring to their lives as a partner or spouse?

1 week ago | yourtango.com | James Michael Sama

We've discussed on multiple occasions the effects that "hookup culture" is having on dating and courtship, primarily negative ones. Research has highlighted potential gender differences in motivations and experiences. When it comes to actually dating, people seem to be lost. We hear very little about people putting in the time and effort to plan a real date as a sign of interest in a woman.

1 week ago | jamesmsama.medium.com | James Michael Sama

They make you a great partner, and a great person. Here’s a dose of reality for you: Your level of self-worth should probably a lot higher than it already is. In other words, you’re not giving yourself enough credit for the positive qualities that you possess as a human being. Perhaps you struggle to acknowledge your strengths. Perhaps you (like many of my clients), have immense confidence in your professional life but cannot seem to translate it to your personal life.

1 week ago | yourtango.com | James Michael Sama

As an international relationship coach, I have had countless conversations on dating and relationships with people in all phases of life: men, women, boys, girls, single, married, divorced, and everything in between. When you stop to listen and pay attention, there are many lessons one can take away from these interactions: insights into the thoughts and feelings of others, as well as the ability to reflect on your own.

1 week ago | yourtango.com | James Michael Sama

As we grow, advance, and (hopefully) mature as adults, the ways we live our lives should progress at an equal pace. What I find to be an epidemic these days is that otherwise seemingly mature and well-adjusted men have stuck to the dating habits they learned in their early 20s, or maybe even late teens. Back in those days (listen to me, sounding like an adult now that I've turned 30), a lot of different things accomplished a lot of different goals. Maybe you didn't want a serious relationship.