Lachlan Brown

Ho Chi Minh City

Chief Editor and Founder at Hack Spirit

Editor and founder of Hack Spirit (@hackspiritorg) a website sharing actionable advice to improve your relationships with others and yourself.

Articles

The hard questions that bring clarity after infidelity

4 days ago | hackspirit.com | Lachlan Brown

I understand how painful and disorienting it can feel to discover your boyfriend has been unfaithful. You’re overwhelmed by betrayal, anger, confusion, and maybe even a sense of self-doubt. In moments like these, it’s natural to want answers—real answers. I’ve been there before, caught between heartbreak and the desperate need to make sense of what happened.
What real authenticity looks like-and why it can’t be imitated

5 days ago | hackspirit.com | Lachlan Brown

In a world obsessed with image—filters, curated posts, and polished personas—it’s surprisingly difficult to spot what’s real. We’ve all met people who seem kind on the surface, only to feel something off beneath. And we’ve met others who, without needing to say much, make us feel deeply seen and safe. So what makes someone truly genuine?
What real introspection looks like (and why most of us miss the mark)

5 days ago | hackspirit.com | Lachlan Brown

Have you ever spent hours analyzing your own thoughts, only to feel more tangled up and confused than before? I know I have. Early in my journey, I’d catch myself replaying the same worries and insecurities on a loop, thinking that was healthy introspection. But it wasn’t—it was rumination, and it left me stressed and stuck. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing “self-reflection” but not seeing real growth or insight, you’re not alone.
When love feels almost right: the subtle signs he might be pretending

1 week ago | hackspirit.com | Lachlan Brown

There’s a particular kind of confusion that sets in when you’re in a relationship that looks good on the outside but feels hollow underneath. You catch yourself explaining away moments that don’t sit right. You tell yourself he’s just tired, just stressed, just not good at expressing his feelings. And yet, something nags at you—something quiet but persistent. In my own experience, the most painful relationships weren’t the ones where love ended abruptly.
When a man calls you “stranger”: more than just a casual text

1 week ago | hackspirit.com | Lachlan Brown

I’ll be honest with you—when a man sends the word “stranger” out of the blue, it’s rarely as casual as it seems. As a guy myself, and someone who’s spent years studying psychology and mindfulness, I can tell you this much: that one-word message often carries more emotional baggage than we’d like to admit. It might look harmless. Playful, even. A nudge. A way of acknowledging time passed. But if you read between the lines, what it often reveals is uncertainty, nostalgia, maybe even regret.
Why deep friendships matter more than a long contact list

1 week ago | hackspirit.com | Lachlan Brown

We live in an era obsessed with connection. Social media counts our followers, apps track our networking reach, and even email signatures sometimes feel like trophies of how many people we “know.” But somewhere beneath the flurry of DMs and birthday wishes from acquaintances lies a quieter truth:Having a hundred people you can message isn’t the same as having one person you can call when everything falls apart.
Why someone who likes you might still be on dating apps

1 week ago | hackspirit.com | Lachlan Brown

Have you ever found someone you genuinely click with — yet discovered they’re still actively using a dating app? It’s a confusing situation, and you’re not alone if you’re wondering what it means. Maybe you’re asking yourself: Are they really into me or just keeping their options open? You might feel hurt, misled, or even a bit anxious about where things stand. I remember going through a similar experience several years ago, right after I finished my psychology degree.
Questions that naturally deepen connection with a girl you’re drawn to

1 week ago | hackspirit.com | Lachlan Brown

Have you ever felt that magnetic pull toward someone — yet struggled to take the conversation beyond surface-level banter? Building a genuine connection can feel exhilarating and nerve-racking all at once. Maybe you’re worried about running out of things to say, or you’re concerned you’ll come across as too pushy when trying to deepen a bond. I’ve been there.
9 things genuinely classy women never do in public

1 week ago | baselinemag.com | Lachlan Brown

There’s something about a genuinely classy woman that can’t be faked. She doesn’t need to flaunt her status, wear flashy designer labels, or constantly talk about how “elegant” she is. Her grace is subtle. Her presence lingers, not because she’s loud, but because she carries herself with quiet confidence and respect—for herself and for others. But true class isn’t just about what she does. It’s also about what she chooses not to do—especially when others are watching.
9 things a manipulator will do when they realize you’ve stopped caring

1 week ago | dmnews.com | Lachlan Brown

Tension: You’ve stopped caring, and they know it—but that’s when the real manipulation begins. Noise: You’re flooded with second guesses—“Am I the bad one now?” “Why are they suddenly being so nice?”Direct Message: A manipulator doesn’t let go quietly. They double down. Here’s how to spot their next moves before you get pulled back in. You finally stopped caring. Not in a cold-hearted way—just… done. No more overthinking. No more twisting yourself into knots to keep the peace. You’re out.