Natalie Lue

Boundaries mean you allow yourself to heal, grow and learn. You operate from a place of discernment and being more you instead of hiding yourself. https://t.co/HZUJ9U2dqd

Relationship Insanity involves carrying the same baggage, beliefs, behaviours, and attitudes, choosing variations of the same person in a different package, or gravitating to similar situations and then expecting different results. https://t.co/eW96UVc6Z6

You’ve never been below par. Striving, though, for the impossible and unnecessary ideal of perfection guarantees feeling like you’re not enough. Start noticing where you’re inadvertently expecting too much of yourself so you can break the cycle. https://t.co/IcakEKmO8Z

Sameness in your relationships (e.g. having a type, repeat situations and relationships) is a call to wake up from your pattern. You’re being invited to see what you couldn’t before so that you heal, grow, learn and love. https://t.co/Tg6dRVVome

Unquestioned beliefs and stories are at the heart of all painful relationships. When we say we desire a loving relationship, but our pattern is something else, we need to examine the discrepancies — the untruths. https://t.co/DMXrmQmgAU

Pretending leads to feelings of rejection and abandonment. It’s like thinking, ‘I did everything right. I even tried to be just like you or your Perfect Woman/Man/Person, and you still don’t want me? I must be really unlovable!’ https://t.co/oGTVOyppVF

If we have a pattern of unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships, on some level, we’re trying to right the wrongs of the past. We’re unwittingly drawn to people who represent our narrative about our worthiness, life, and love. https://t.co/pnjSn4EbL4

We figure out what we want and who we are by discovering what doesn’t work and who we’re not. Our relationships help us understand and discover ourselves. We get to release emotional baggage and reclaim ourselves. https://t.co/VhTBBwRxKq

If we want our relationships to go somewhere good, healthy, mutual and fulfilling, we’ve got to keep it real. We’ll know, for instance, when someone talks a good game but does not follow through with action. Superficial won’t be enough for us. https://t.co/Q7YqD1d67O

Authentic relationships are mutually fulfilling with love, care, trust, and respect. Each of you is allowed to bring your respective needs, desires, expectations, feelings and opinions—your selves—to the relationship. https://t.co/q8r4lsxuQO

No one, including yourself, should expect automatic and unquestionable compliance from you. https://t.co/CWsMXCauTZ

Love, care, trust and respect are the foundation. While we don’t love someone as soon as we know them, living these values for ourselves and within our relationships means that we will not accept less than what we can already be and do for ourselves from others.

When a relationship is mutually fulfilling, it’s loving not just in feelings but also in actions and intentions. https://t.co/qjyig3zhC3

Self-esteem has the word ‘self’ in it for a reason; it’s about the way you treat and regard yourself. If it’s mostly about external esteem, so how others feel about and perceive you, you don’t get to have much of a self. https://t.co/eeookSOywU

Every relationship experience is a stepping stone to the relationship that’s most befitting of you. You learn more about who you are and what you truly need, want, expect, feel, and think. https://t.co/PMzK2r6tvz

Relationship hallmarks are signs, such as what we perceive as emotional, conversational, and social milestones, that we rely on as indicators of how much we should invest. We mistakenly use hallmarks to gauge what we think the person feels about us or will do in the future.

If being hard on yourself worked, it would have worked by now. It’s not because you’re ‘not good enough’ that the criticism isn’t working; you’re using a hammer where you need a hug. https://t.co/tKtLErBPx3