Nyree Ausler

3 weeks ago | yourtango.com | Nyree Ausler

Before I became a wife, I would scrutinize married women and the things they would tolerate, noting that I would never be in that position. They say to never say never, and they were right. After getting married, I slowly but surely allowed my boundaries to be crossed, my values to be compromised, and let my standards slip. This resulted in so much resentment that I eventually threw the whole marriage away. Marital bliss is built on love, working together, and shared dreams.

3 weeks ago | yourtango.com | Nyree Ausler

In this era of hustle and grind, it's easy to do too much professionally to stand out from the crowd or increase your perceived value. You might do things that you would not normally do to impress others, or take on tasks that are outside of your area of expertise to prove you are necessary and needed. But smart people know that is a recipe for burnout or resentment. Contrary to what you might believe, there is no reward for being the overworked man or woman of the year.

3 weeks ago | yourtango.com | Nyree Ausler

If you grew up in a household with a parent who was volatile, unpredictable, or emotionally unavailable, you know how anxiety-inducing it can be. You tiptoe around that house, trying not to make them erupt in anger or shut down on you. Your parents were clearly dysfunctional, but it was familiar to you, and you learned how to navigate around their toxic behavior. Many of us can look back on our childhood with a mature eye and realize that some of the familial dynamics we faced were unhealthy.

3 weeks ago | yourtango.com | Nyree Ausler

The subject of who should be watching your children while you are working or taking a much-needed break is the subject of much debate. Some grandparents want to be paid to babysit their grandchildren, while siblings believe your kids are not their responsibility, even if they live in your home rent-free. But the biggest source of contention is around how much responsibility older siblings should have in the care of their younger brothers or sisters.

3 weeks ago | yourtango.com | Nyree Ausler

As women, we have been taught to seek the approval and attention of men. We do things that we believe will inspire them to treat us how we deserve to be treated. We've come up with ways to turn their heads, but we forgot to ask them what really matters. So, we go out of our way, sometimes pouring into a bottomless cup to no avail. Ladies, we need to work smarter, not harder. The things that we see as important might not matter to men at all.