Sophia Benoit

Los Angeles

Sex and Relationships Columnist at GQ

Sex and Relationships Columnist at Bustle

Writer at Freelance

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Articles

I Miss Flirting With Other People. Am I Non-Monogamous Or Just Tempted To Cheat?

1 month ago | bustle.com | Sophia Benoit

Q: When I’m in a long-term relationship, I find myself still wanting to flirt heavily with other people. I ended my last relationship a few months ago because of other issues, and I never cheated, but I don’t think I was as loyal as I should’ve been. I discussed this issue with my partner during the relationship, but they — understandably — were not open to flirting with other people or slightly opening up our relationship.
I've Been Having An Affair For 5 Years. Should I Tell My Girlfriend?

2 months ago | flipboard.com | Sophia Benoit

3 Steps To Notice & Curb Defensiveness During A Fight, From Couples' TherapistsClose Banner In the event that someone is upset with you, things can basically go one of two ways: You can graciously apologize, or you can get …
My Husband Hates That I Flirt With Our Coworker... But Is That Really So Bad?

Mar 6, 2025 | bustle.com | Sophia Benoit

Q: My husband and I work for the same company but in different departments. I have a close friendship with a colleague in my department that tends to involve flirty banter. My husband went through my phone and read our messages. He doesn’t like the friend. I admit I probably have a bit of a crush, but I also value my colleague’s friendship very highly as I don’t have many friends that are just my own and not inherited from my husband. I can feel myself starting to resent my husband’s attitude.
My Boyfriend Has Lots Of Debt & Doesn't Care. What Can I Do?

Feb 20, 2025 | bustle.com | Sophia Benoit

It's A PleasureI can't help but consider breaking up... by Sophia BenoitFeb. 20, 2025Bustle; Getty ImagesIt's A PleasureQ: For two years, I’ve been in a relationship with a kind, compassionate, understanding, selfless, and loyal man who always puts me first. However, I have a lot of concerns. He has very little savings and severe financial debt (and he’ll inherit more once his parents pass). He is a big procrastinator and we don’t have much in common.
My Boyfriend Is Nice... But Boring. I'm Scared I Won't Find Anyone Better.

Jan 13, 2025 | bustle.com | Sophia Benoit

It's A PleasureHe’s a little boring but treats me so well. by Sophia BenoitJan. 13, 2025It's A PleasureQ: Should I break up with my long-distance boyfriend of one year? Every time I visit him by train, I feel like I’m wasting time. Our conversations are much duller than before due to lack of common topics. We also found out that we have very different sexual needs (he wants sex much more than I do). Honestly, I’m not physically attracted to him anymore.
Wingman Nedir? İyi Bir Wingman Nasıl Olunur?

Dec 29, 2024 | gq.com.tr | Sophia Benoit

Filmler, özellikle de Seth Rogen'ın yer aldığı filmler, iyi bir kankalık sahnesine bayılır. Bu tipleri bilirsiniz: Bir bilge vardır, bu sık sık seks yapan biri, aşk konusunda daha az şanslı olan arkadaşına bir avuç basit tavsiye verir (“sadece kendin ol, dostum”), onu dünyaya gönderir ve sonra bum! kahramanımız sevişmeye başlar. Şaşırtıcı olmayan bir şekilde, filmler bunu yanlış anlıyor. Karakterler genellikle çok agresif, çok ısrarcı ya da eldeki görevi temelden yanlış anlıyorlar.
I Love Oral Sex But My Boyfriend Hates It

Dec 4, 2024 | bustle.com | Sophia Benoit

It's A PleasureIt would suck to break up over this. by Sophia BenoitDec. 5, 2024Ariela Basson/Bustle; StocksyIt's A PleasureQ: In my past relationships, oral sex was pretty much a given since that’s what works best for me. The guys were eager, the orgasms were A+, and it made the sex afterward feel even better because I was more turned on. I told my new boyfriend what I like, and he initiated it once, but otherwise, it’s only if I ask.
Can I Tell My Boyfriend About Exes & My Past Relationships?

Nov 11, 2024 | bustle.com | Sophia Benoit

It's A PleasureWe made a pact, but it's getting complicated. by Sophia BenoitNovember 11, 2024Ariela Basson/Bustle; StocksyIt's A PleasureQ: I’ve hosted a few parties, and some of my exes have come in attendance with their current girlfriends or situationships. My boyfriend has met them, but I haven’t told him about my past with these people.
Our Sex Life Is So Boring. How Do I Talk To My Boyfriend?

Oct 10, 2024 | bustle.com | Sophia Benoit

It's A PleasureMy friends say I'm overreacting. Are they right? by Sophia BenoitOct. 10, 2024Bustle/Getty ImagesIt's A PleasureQ: I've been with my boyfriend for six months, and it sounds crazy to write this down but every time I have sex with him I achieve orgasm (yes, every time), but I still don't feel sexually satisfied. We've only sexted once, and the only other spontaneous thing we've done is had impromptu car sex while in a parking garage last month.
Is My Situationship Really Just A Bad Texter? Or Is He Not That Into Me?

Sep 5, 2024 | bustle.com | Sophia Benoit

It's A PleasureI know he sometimes just wants “me time,” but still. by Sophia BenoitSep. 5, 2024It's A PleasureQ: If you are sort of dating someone but that person doesn't text back that often, how do you not text-bomb them? Like, how do you keep from having the anxious feeling that they aren’t responding on purpose? I know sometimes he just wants “me time,” but still. A: There is only so much you can do when you really like someone to avoid “over-texting” them.