Susan Whitbourne

2 weeks ago | psychologytoday.com | Susan Whitbourne |Michelle Quirk

Revenge is an emotional state in which the memory of a past wrong refuses to fade. New research identifies the type of forgetting that can promote more adaptive emotions. By turning revenge around, you and those in your life can find more fulfilling paths into the future. Some people seem to be on an eternal revenge tour. They’ve been slighted in what most people would consider a minor affront, instantly going on the attack.

3 weeks ago | psychologytoday.com | Susan Whitbourne |Kaja Perina

The last time you were in a bad mood, how did you try to cheer yourself up? Perhaps you were out to dinner with a friend when the thought crossed your mind that you have a stressful day coming up tomorrow. You’re trying to distract yourself from this reminder, but it’s not proving to be easy. Fortunately, your friend starts in on an amusing anecdote, and your stress slips away. For people with borderline personality disorder (BPD), the regulation of emotion doesn’t come quite so easily.