Suzi Godson

6 days ago | thetimes.com | Suzi Godson

Q. My partner of five years never kisses me properly any more unless it’s definitely going to lead to sex. I know we’re out of the honeymoon period but I miss the kissing sessions we used to have as a pleasure in their own right. How can we resolve this? A. Kissing is greatly underrated but there has been a lot of research into it.

1 week ago | irishexaminer.com | Suzi Godson

Although things feel wonderful now, the reality of living apart long term is not ideal. A qualitative study called Sex, Love and Security: Accounts of Distance and Commitment in Living Apart Together Relationships from Canterbury Christ Church University found that living apart can become a way of keeping control over one's life and that this can create emotional distance for couples. Just as absence makes the heart grow fonder, being out of sight can, of course, mean being out of mind.

2 weeks ago | irishexaminer.com | Suzi Godson

Fantasy can be a safe way to explore things you are curious about but would be too scared to try in real life. You both acknowledge that you have fleeting crushes on other people and maybe these fantasies are your way of exploring what might happen if one of these was reciprocated - but as you get to write the script your fantasies never veer into threatening territory. They tell a story that intrigues you and in a sense they help you to see your relationship through a different lens.

2 weeks ago | thetimes.com | Suzi Godson

3 weeks ago | irishexaminer.com | Suzi Godson

As the two of you shyly figure out how to "be" in your newly silent home, you can actually look on it as a perfect opportunity to re-engineer your sexual relationship. The awkwardness you feel is shifting your perspective from one of familiarity to one of distance, and that is a good thing. I would suggest trying to hold on to that sense of "otherness" and unfamiliarity, if anything, especially when you are having sex.