Terry Gaspard

New England

Contributor at HuffPost

Contributor at Divorce Magazine

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Terry Gaspard, author of "The Remarriage Manual" https://t.co/lE98DJAUNL

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Articles

How To Prevent Resentment From Destroying Your Marriage

1 month ago | patheos.com | Terry Gaspard

Karen, age 48, had been married to Kyle, 50, for five years when she found several letters from his former live-in girlfriend in his dresser drawer when she was putting away his clean clothes. She reflects, “I wasn’t looking for trouble but it presented itself to me and our marriage went sideways after that.
8 Things To Do Before Giving Up On Your Marriage

1 month ago | movingpastdivorce.com | Terry Gaspard

By Terry Gaspard, LICSWWhat can you do to rescue your marriage when it’s on the brink of divorce? While this is a complex question that doesn’t lend itself to a quick answer, there are aspects of successful and lasting relationships that can help you get back on track. The good news is that if you and your partner are willing to put effort into saving your marriage, there are things you can do – positive strategies – that can give you a fresh start and strengthen your marriage.
How Managing Conflict Can Help Couples Thrive

1 month ago | patheos.com | Terry Gaspard

Dear Terry,After fourteen-years of marriage, I’m at the end of my rope. My husband, Ryan is gone a lot and even when he’s home, he’s watching sports. It seems like we have the same arguments over and over again. There’s not much joy or love left in our marriage. Mostly, we argue about our kids, Tyler, 6, and Jessica, age 3. Since Ryan gets home late from his job as a store manager, he mostly wants to play with them and doesn’t help me settle them down.
Self-Care Doesn’t Mean You’re Being Selfish In Relationships

1 month ago | patheos.com | Terry Gaspard

Karen, 35, sat on the couch near (but not close) to her boyfriend Ron, 36, and talked about her tendency to take care of Ron’s needs at her own expense. Living together for five years, she found herself doing most of the housework and chores, and then resenting it. Karen reflects, “I always wanted a healthier relationship than my parents because my mom was a doormat who took care of my dad, even when she neglected herself. But now I find myself following in her footsteps more often than I’d like.
How to Identify and Let Go Of a Toxic Relationship

1 month ago | movingpastdivorce.com | Terry Gaspard

By Terry Gaspard, LICSWJenna, 35, sat on the couch in my office and lamented about her toxic relationship with Trevor, 36, her boyfriend for over five years. She described his treatment as condescending and critical, the top two signs of an unhealthy relationship that can lead to a breakup, according to Dr. John Gottman. According to Kendra Han, “in a toxic relationship, the communication between partners is characterized by what Dr. John Gottman calls the ‘Four Horsemen’.
5 Smart Ways To Repair Broken Trust

1 month ago | patheos.com | Terry Gaspard

Karen, 48, and Mike, 53, sat on the couch in my office and described their trust issues stemming from a challenging time in their marriage last year. During this time, Karen had been confiding with a male co-worker about their problems. When Mike found out about it from reading a text , he became angry and mistrustful of Karen. She took responsibility for her emotional infidelity and their process of healing began.
7 Ways To Rid Yourself Of Jealous Feelings

2 months ago | patheos.com | Terry Gaspard

Establishing and maintaining trust with your partner can be a huge challenge if you’re prone towards jealous feelings. There are many reasons why you might experience jealousy including past betrayals, insecurity, and fear of losing love. The first step in overcoming jealousy is self-awareness. These feelings won’t magically disappear and they can spell disaster for your intimate relationship. Jealousy is the polar opposite of trusting someone.
6 Surefire Ways to Apologize to Your Partner

2 months ago | goodmenproject.com | Terry Gaspard

There are many reasons why you or your partner may have difficulty apologizing to one another. For instance, you might equate apologizing with weakness and it’s widely believed that if you apologize to someone, you’re making yourself too vulnerable. Further, you might stubbornly hold onto the belief that you have nothing to apologize for – especially if your hurtful behavior or words were not intentional.
When Parents Have Conflict: What About the Kids?

2 months ago | movingpastdivorce.com | Terry Gaspard

By Terry Gaspard, LICSWCouples argue. This is a given. And yet some parents escalate to destructive levels of conflict that can be damaging to their kids. In a perfect world parents wouldn’t disagree in front of their children. But in the real world it happens every day. Probably the most important question is whether kids suffer from exposure to their parents arguments. How problematic is it for children to observe their parents experiencing high conflict in front of them?
How Do I Overcome The Legacy Of Divorce?

2 months ago | patheos.com | Terry Gaspard

Do you ever wonder if you’ll get out from under the shadow of your parents’ divorce? Do you worry about repeating the patterns of the past? The challenge of creating and maintaining a healthy, long-lasting relationship is where your parents fell short. But you have an opportunity to learn from their mistakes and build the kind of relationship that eluded your parents.