Tom Blake

1 week ago | picketfencemedia.com | Tom Blake

A month ago, a woman named Susie emailed, “How does a woman become attracted to an older man? Or how do men become attracted to an older woman? I am 83, take good care of myself, and still look pretty good after years of working out and being a dancer. I never let myself go. “I want to join an online dating site, but my age of 83 stops me. I would not be interested in a man 83, and I figure no one would be interested in me at 83.”I posted Susie’s comments on my weekly newsletter.

3 weeks ago | picketfencemedia.com | Tom Blake

Recently, an Orange County woman, age 76, wrote to me about children interfering with her relationship with a man she’s dated for five years. She asked that I not use her true name, so I will call her Jessica. It’s not her children who are creating the problem; it’s her boyfriend’s kids and grandkids who are causing it. She wondered if I had ever written about the topic of kids interfering with their parents’ relationships.

1 month ago | picketfencemedia.com | Tom Blake

Recently, six seniors shared with me their views on romance. Joe, newly divorced, emailed: “My dating has been limited to meeting women on dating apps. I had an interesting thing happen at the grocery store. I noticed a cute woman in the store. I got to the laundry aisle, and there she was again looking at items to buy. Although she didn’t look at me, I was tempted to ask if she was single. I missed my chance.  “My fear was her saying she wasn’t interested in dating me – a comment no guy likes to hear.

1 month ago | picketfencemedia.com | Tom Blake

In my 31 years of writing about senior dating, I have avoided potentially controversial topics such as religion and politics. A third topic, senior sex, is a bit too touchy, so I only write about it occasionally. In my most recent March 13 column (“Too Much Senior Sex Too Soon”), I stepped out of my comfort zone and published an article based on a 56-year-old woman’s email to me about her short-lived sexual relationship with a 63-year-old man.

2 months ago | picketfencemedia.com | Tom Blake

Ireceived an email from a woman who requested that I not use her true name. I will call her Liz. Liz wrote, “Tom, how much sex is realistic in a relationship when we are in our 50s and 60s, when our bodies slow down and things don’t always work so well? I feel like men expect a lot in that department. I have had many dates tell me they didn’t have intimacy in their marriages, and now they want and need it a few times a week. “I recently met and became involved with a man on Match.com.