Tom Blake

2 months ago | picketfencemedia.com | Tom Blake

Recently, six seniors shared with me their views on romance. Joe, newly divorced, emailed: “My dating has been limited to meeting women on dating apps. I had an interesting thing happen at the grocery store. I noticed a cute woman in the store. I got to the laundry aisle, and there she was again looking at items to buy. Although she didn’t look at me, I was tempted to ask if she was single. I missed my chance.  “My fear was her saying she wasn’t interested in dating me – a comment no guy likes to hear.

2 months ago | picketfencemedia.com | Tom Blake

In my 31 years of writing about senior dating, I have avoided potentially controversial topics such as religion and politics. A third topic, senior sex, is a bit too touchy, so I only write about it occasionally. In my most recent March 13 column (“Too Much Senior Sex Too Soon”), I stepped out of my comfort zone and published an article based on a 56-year-old woman’s email to me about her short-lived sexual relationship with a 63-year-old man.

2 months ago | picketfencemedia.com | Tom Blake

Ireceived an email from a woman who requested that I not use her true name. I will call her Liz. Liz wrote, “Tom, how much sex is realistic in a relationship when we are in our 50s and 60s, when our bodies slow down and things don’t always work so well? I feel like men expect a lot in that department. I have had many dates tell me they didn’t have intimacy in their marriages, and now they want and need it a few times a week. “I recently met and became involved with a man on Match.com.

Feb 27, 2025 | picketfencemedia.com | Tom Blake

Dana Point resident Susan emailed last week: “I've been reading your columns for years. Seeing you going through the horror of losing your soulmate in 2022 and you following your own advice to finding a new mate. “I'm 63, been single for 12 years. A couple of short-term relationships in between. I’m perfectly happy living by myself—thin, attractive and smart. Reading about health, the experts say that a meaningful relationship adds to your health.

Feb 13, 2025 | picketfencemedia.com | Tom Blake

Valentine’s Day is intended to be a day of celebration and love. However, as I age, it becomes more difficult for me to get excited about the holiday. I don’t want to be a downer this year or ruin some couples’ happiness and bliss. However, these are my Valentine’s Day thoughts. I think about the people in California who have suffered by losing their homes or being evacuated from their homes in the January wildfires. Valentine’s Day for them will only be another day on their calendars.