Tunde Awosika

3 days ago | goodmenproject.com | Tunde Awosika

When we engage in a new dynamic, it feels exciting. You’ve most likely “put yourself back out there,” given dating another chance, and there’s a chance you’ve found someone you connect with. Okay, Tunde, plug in the piece on this being the wrong approach and break down what I did wrong. That’s not what I am here to do!I am here to tell you what potentially will go wrong if you don’t move forward with the correct approach and understanding the behaviors and values you value in relationships.

1 week ago | goodmenproject.com | Tunde Awosika

The golden moment has finally come. Your partner, who has been in and out of the picture and noncommital, is back, and the relationship will be different this time. You both promise to take a new approach to the relationship and work on things. I hope you’re laughing by now because this path should sound pretty familiar to you if you’re on the other side of working with an avoidant. I know what keeps your hope alive and continuously has you investing in the relationship.

1 week ago | goodmenproject.com | Tunde Awosika

Going through a breakup is one of the more unsettling feelings you can experience. Half of your mind thinks it was the best decision. Half of your mind questions if you could have saved the relationship. You go back and forth, and it can take up mental space, and now you’re potentially headed toward a dangerous territory where it’s all you can think about. It isn’t easy to alleviate yourself from the guilty feeling that results. Am I being strong, or am I being stubborn?

2 weeks ago | goodmenproject.com | Tunde Awosika

Before we dive into this article, I need the audience to know a couple of things:I don’t write for people who aren’t actively working on transitioning and developing their attachment style or working with their partner on their dynamic. I’m sorry if you’ve had a bad experience with a past partner. Your singular experience does not explain navigating relationships with non- secure attachment styles. The journey is not days to weeks. It is months to years.

2 weeks ago | goodmenproject.com | Tunde Awosika

Heartbreak isn’t just sadness — it’s an existential crisis. It’s driving to the gym, tears streaming down your face, unable to speak, barely able to function. It’s clutching onto objects, songs, memories, and anything that makes you feel something other than the crushing weight of loss. And the worst part? No amount of well-meaning advice — “Just distract yourself!” “Go on dates!” “Time heals all wounds!” — works. Because heartbreak isn’t just about missing someone.