Vanessa Friedman

Portland

Deputy Managing Editor at Hey Alma

queer jewish dyke writer. deputy managing editor @hey_alma. in love with my friends. hot, fun, weird, stressed!!! she/her.

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How to Get Over Your Fear of Weird Texture to Become a Cottage Cheese Girlie

6 days ago | heyalma.com | Vanessa Friedman

Hello and welcome back to Hey Alma’s advice column on all things Jewish life. Read on for advice from our resident deputy editor/bossy Capricorn Jew, and submit your own dilemmas anonymously here.
My Fiancé's Brothers Might Marry Non-Jewish Women and I'm Stressed - Hey Alma

3 weeks ago | heyalma.com | Vanessa Friedman

Hello and welcome back to Hey Alma’s advice column on all things Jewish life. Read on for advice from our resident deputy editor/bossy Capricorn Jew, and submit your own dilemmas anonymously here.Hey Hey Alma, I’m currently very happily engaged to an NJB. He has two brothers and both of them are in long term relationships […]
How to Celebrate The Lowest of Low Key Passovers

1 month ago | heyalma.com | Vanessa Friedman

Anyone who knows me knows that in general, I love to host. Feeding my friends and family is one of my passions, and planning and executing a function is another one. This makes hosting an ideal activity for me.
My Husband and I Want to Host Passover, But His Parents Won't Let Us

1 month ago | heyalma.com | Vanessa Friedman

Hello and welcome back to Hey Alma’s advice column on all things Jewish life. Read on for advice from our resident deputy managing editor/bossy Capricorn Jew, and submit your own dilemmas anonymously here. Hey, Hey Alma,My husband and I live in the same city as his grandmother and her three kids (including his mom). Naturally, his mom, aunt and grandmother worked out holiday hosting years ago.
How Do I Get My Non-Jewish Boyfriend’s Family to Stop Casually Bringing Up the Holocaust?

2 months ago | heyalma.com | Vanessa Friedman

Hello and welcome back to Hey Alma’s advice column on all things Jewish life. Read on for advice from our resident deputy managing editor/bossy Capricorn Jew, and submit your own dilemmas anonymously here. Hey, Hey Alma,My non-Jewish boyfriend’s family won’t stop bring up the Shoah in casual conversation. How do I get them to stop?
9 Very Specific Purim Parties You Could Throw Together This Week

2 months ago | heyalma.com | Vanessa Friedman

It’s that chaotic time again, pals: Purim is here! Maybe you already have plans to attend a Purim party, or maybe you were planning to sit the holiday out this year because you’re a little burned out from… *gestures to the whole world.* But maybe you fall into a third category: You’d like to celebrate Purim — you’re even open to throwing a party yourself — but you’re just not sure what the vibe should be. Well, great news.
Is It OK for a Jewish Person to Go to a Church’s Free Pancake Breakfast?

2 months ago | heyalma.com | Vanessa Friedman

Hello and welcome back to Hey Alma’s advice column on all things Jewish life. Read on for advice from our resident deputy managing editor/bossy Capricorn Jew, and submit your own dilemmas anonymously here. Hey, Hey Alma,Forgive me if this is an odd question, but, uh, is it OK for a Jewish person to go to a church’s free pancake breakfast? I’m relatively new in my town, I love the idea of meeting other people in my community, and I love pancakes.
Where the Hell Is My Bashert?

Feb 14, 2025 | heyalma.com | Vanessa Friedman

Hello and welcome back to Hey Alma’s advice column on all things Jewish life. Read on for advice from our resident deputy managing editor/bossy Capricorn Jew, and submit your own dilemmas anonymously here. Hey, Hey Alma,This is a somewhat humiliating ask, but I’m not sure what else to do. I’m a Jewish woman in my mid-20s who has been single for three years now, living in NYC and looking to enter a longterm relationship with a Jewish, non-observant partner.
Am I the Asshole if I Don’t Want to Go On a Jewish Heritage Trip With My Mom?

Jan 31, 2025 | heyalma.com | Vanessa Friedman

Hello and welcome back to Hey Alma’s advice column on all things Jewish life. Read on for advice from our resident deputy managing editor/bossy Capricorn Jew, and submit your own dilemmas anonymously here. Hey, Hey Alma,My mom wants to take me on a heritage trip to Poland this year, where both of her grandparents were born and narrowly survived the Holocaust.
I Threw My Jewish Friend a Surprise Baby Shower and Now She's Pissed

Jan 17, 2025 | heyalma.com | Vanessa Friedman

Hello and welcome back to Hey Alma’s advice column on all things Jewish life. Read on for advice from our resident deputy managing editor/bossy Capricorn Jew, and submit your own dilemmas anonymously here. Hey, Hey Alma,One of my dear friends is pregnant with her first child (yay!).