Zachary Zane

New York

Off Twitter! | Find me on Instagram at @zacharyzane_ | “Sexplain It” at Men’s Health | “Navigating Non-Monogamy” at Cosmo | Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto

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Sabrina Carpenter Did The Eiffel Tower Position At Her Paris Concert. Here's How To Do It For Real.

1 month ago | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

Most sex positions are designed for two people, but what about when two become three? Well, just ask Sabrina Carpenter. Last weekend, during her Short n' Sweet tour stop in Paris, the pop star shared a très apropos suggestion with the Eiffel Tower. Now, for the non-Carpenters and anyone else who hasn't seen Sabrina's concert videos on TikTok, during each performance of "Juno," the singer asks the audience, "Have you ever tried this one?" before miming a different sex position.
Sexplain It: I Keep Getting Rejected Because of My Small Penis

1 month ago | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

I'm Zachary Zane, a sex columnist and author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Over the years, I've had my fair share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and many other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner" because you know that already.
5 People On the Joys and Challenges of Cohabitating When You’re Polyamorous

1 month ago | msn.com | Zachary Zane

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5 People On the Joys and Challenges of Cohabitating When You’re Polyamorous

1 month ago | cosmopolitan.com | Zachary Zane

I knew four months of dating was too quick to move in with my boyfriend. But my lease was up, and I was freshly, hopelessly, and foolishly in love. The wildest part wasn’t even the lack of time we’d been dating. It was that my boyfriend was married…and he was asking me to move in with him and his wife. When he initially asked me, I laughed right in his face. “Are you out of your mind?” I said, unable to control my shock.
19 Polyamory Books and Resources to Inform Your Ethical Non-monogamy

1 month ago | cosmopolitan.com | Zachary Zane

Nearly a decade ago, when I started practicing polyamory, I remember feeling like a castaway at sea—completely lost. I wanted to be this “perfect” poly person who never got jealous, clearly communicated their desires and boundaries without fear, and had boundless energy and desire for multiple partners a week. It took me a while to realize that this “perfect” poly person doesn’t exist, and that the criteria I’d developed for being perfect was, in many ways, lacking.
How to Get Your Sex Drive Back After Burnout or a Bad Breakup

1 month ago | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

WHEN IT COMES to long-term relationships, we often hear that sexual desire can have its ebbs and flows. There are moments of fiery passion and connection, followed by stretches where the idea of having sex feels distant, even laughable. While this is totally normal, what happens if you find yourself yearning for more sex—but your mind and body seem at odds? How do you reconnect with your erotic self and start to feel desire again? And how do you rebuild trust with a partner after facing betrayal?
Sexplain It: Sex Feels So 'Meh.' Is There Something Wrong With Me?

1 month ago | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

I'm Zachary Zane, a sex columnist and author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Over the years, I've had my fair share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and many other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner" because you know that already.
Sexplain It: I Can't Find a BF Because I'm Only Attracted to Muscle Gays

2 months ago | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

I'm Zachary Zane, a sex columnist and author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Over the years, I've had my fair share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and many other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner" because you know that already.
Try the Wheelbarrow Sex Position That Also Builds Upper-Body Strength

2 months ago | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

According to recent research published in Harvard Health, during sexual intercourse, men burn an average of five calories per minute – about the same as holding a plank for one minute. Not a huge amount, it must be said. As for a man’s heart rate, it rarely exceeds 130 beats per minute, and you'll consume the same amount of oxygen as when playing ping pong. It really does seem that men perhaps spend more energy thinking about sex than actually having it.
Relationship Expert Emily Nagoski's Advice for Long-Term Intimacy

2 months ago | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

WHEN EMILY NAGOSKI, PhD, published Come As You Are in 2015, it became an instant classic. A comprehensive exploration of female sexuality, CAYA combined scientific research with personal anecdotes to address common misconceptions about women’s sexual desires and behaviors. Nagoski’s latest book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections, has a different focus: how to create and sustain a fulfilling, pleasurable sexual relationship with a long-term partner.