Zachary Zane

New York

Off Twitter! | Find me on Instagram at @zacharyzane_ | “Sexplain It” at Men’s Health | Grindr's Sex and Relationship Expert| Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto

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Are you a 'Simp'? Here's what the new TikTok slang for 'nice guys'

3 weeks ago | menshealth.com.au | Zachary Zane

TO PARAPHRASE THREE 6 MAFIA, “It’s hard out here for a simp.”Ever since the hashtag #SimpNation took over TikTok in 2020, this word – often used to insult dudes, whether justly or unjustly – has earned a permanent spot in online slang. Case in point: When you search “simp” on Urban Dictionary, five pages of definitions pop up. Which also begs the question…Well, that depends on who you ask—and when. Because while “simp” might seem like a new term, it’s actually been around for over a century.
This is Exactly What it Means When Someone Calls You a 'Simp'

1 month ago | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane |Ro White

Jump to:What Exactly is a Simp? What’s with the Sudden Popularity of the Word 'Simp' in Recent Years? What’s the Difference Between Being a Nice Guy and a Presumptuous, Clingy Weirdo? Am I a Good Simp or a Bad Simp? To paraphrase Three 6 Mafia, 'It's hard out here for a simp.'Ever since the hashtag #SimpNation took over TikTok in 2020, this word – often used to insult dudes, whether justly or unjustly – has earned a permanent spot in online slang.
I Tried An Erectile Dysfunction Pill That Works In 10 Minutes. Here's How It Changed My Sex Life.

1 month ago | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

AT THIS POINT in my life, I can usually get an erection when I want one (which, as a sex writer, is pretty often). But that wasn’t always the case. I’ve struggled with getting hard on and off for years, ever since I was 17. Back in my college days, it was a real issue. Often, when I went to have sex with someone, I couldn’t get erect, and to put it kindly, it really fucked with my head. I was mad at myself and kept wondering what the hell was wrong with me.
Sabrina Carpenter Did The Eiffel Tower Position At Her Paris Concert. Here's How To Do It For Real.

Mar 21, 2025 | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

Most sex positions are designed for two people, but what about when two become three? Well, just ask Sabrina Carpenter. Last weekend, during her Short n' Sweet tour stop in Paris, the pop star shared a très apropos suggestion with the Eiffel Tower. Now, for the non-Carpenters and anyone else who hasn't seen Sabrina's concert videos on TikTok, during each performance of "Juno," the singer asks the audience, "Have you ever tried this one?" before miming a different sex position.
Sexplain It: I Keep Getting Rejected Because of My Small Penis

Mar 20, 2025 | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

I'm Zachary Zane, a sex columnist and author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Over the years, I've had my fair share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and many other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner" because you know that already.
5 People On the Joys and Challenges of Cohabitating When You’re Polyamorous

Mar 12, 2025 | msn.com | Zachary Zane

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5 People On the Joys and Challenges of Cohabitating When You’re Polyamorous

Mar 12, 2025 | cosmopolitan.com | Zachary Zane

I knew four months of dating was too quick to move in with my boyfriend. But my lease was up, and I was freshly, hopelessly, and foolishly in love. The wildest part wasn’t even the lack of time we’d been dating. It was that my boyfriend was married…and he was asking me to move in with him and his wife. When he initially asked me, I laughed right in his face. “Are you out of your mind?” I said, unable to control my shock.
19 Polyamory Books and Resources to Inform Your Ethical Non-monogamy

Mar 7, 2025 | cosmopolitan.com | Zachary Zane

Nearly a decade ago, when I started practicing polyamory, I remember feeling like a castaway at sea—completely lost. I wanted to be this “perfect” poly person who never got jealous, clearly communicated their desires and boundaries without fear, and had boundless energy and desire for multiple partners a week. It took me a while to realize that this “perfect” poly person doesn’t exist, and that the criteria I’d developed for being perfect was, in many ways, lacking.
How to Get Your Sex Drive Back After Burnout or a Bad Breakup

Mar 7, 2025 | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

WHEN IT COMES to long-term relationships, we often hear that sexual desire can have its ebbs and flows. There are moments of fiery passion and connection, followed by stretches where the idea of having sex feels distant, even laughable. While this is totally normal, what happens if you find yourself yearning for more sex—but your mind and body seem at odds? How do you reconnect with your erotic self and start to feel desire again? And how do you rebuild trust with a partner after facing betrayal?
Sexplain It: Sex Feels So 'Meh.' Is There Something Wrong With Me?

Mar 6, 2025 | menshealth.com | Zachary Zane

I'm Zachary Zane, a sex columnist and author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto. Over the years, I've had my fair share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and many other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner" because you know that already.