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1 day ago | 
goodmenproject.com | Jessica Gold
How to Repair Your RelationshipIn a previous article I talked about how the sign of a great relationship isn’t that you ‘never fight’ — it’s how well you repair. And that research shows that our brains are wired for the cycle of harmony-disharmony-repair from our earliest moments. But we are not taught how to repair effectively. It’s also just plain terrifying and hard — I know I avoided repair like the plague most of my life. I thought it meant I had to admit I was a bad person or that I was wrong.
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1 week ago | 
goodmenproject.com | Jessica Gold
“Our relationship isn’t perfect, but…”Here’s the thing:Perfection isn’t the goal. It never was. If by ‘perfect’ you mean ‘we never fight’ — then you’ve missed the point. You see, psychologists used to believe that the caregiver-baby bond was one uninterrupted stream of bliss. And so we extrapolated that the ideal marriage was also one of uninterrupted peace, happiness, and bliss. But this isn’t how humans work.
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2 weeks ago | 
medium.com | Jessica Gold
How to Repair Your RelationshipIn a previous article I talked about how the sign of a great relationship isn’t that you ‘never fight’ — it’s how well you repair. And that research shows that our brains are wired for the cycle of harmony-disharmony-repair from our earliest moments. But we are not taught how to repair effectively. It’s also just plain terrifying and hard — I know I avoided repair like the plague most of my life. I thought it meant I had to admit I was a bad person or that I was wrong.
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3 weeks ago | 
goodmenproject.com | Jessica Gold
Here’s the truth: It’s not about scheduled intimacy or expensive date nights. Relationship Researchers and Experts all have their own flavor of recommendations when it comes to keeping the spark alive. I did a little review of four prominent players in the field for you here, with my 3 top tips as a bonus at the end.
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1 month ago | 
goodmenproject.com | Jessica Gold
You’d never build a business empire without an A-team of advisors. So why are you winging it in your relationship — something that is ultimately far more important to your success in life? For your business life, you have a financial advisor. A business coach. A board of advisors. Because you know success isn’t about guesswork — it’s about smart decisions, expert insight, and long-term strategy. So here’s the real question: If your business deserves that level of care, why doesn’t your love life?
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1 month ago | 
goodmenproject.com | Jessica Gold
The man I was talking to on Zoom was worried. Things weren’t going well with his girlfriend. “Everything else comes first before me — her sister, her work — and by the time we get to connect, we have 5 minutes and she’s exhausted.”He wanted a relationship where they prioritized each other. But instead of asking for it, he was quietly resentful, which regularly resulted in blow-out fights. “The underlying resentment and blow-ups are making it less likely she will want to connect with you.
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1 month ago | 
medium.com | Jessica Gold
Jessica Gold, Ph.D.·FollowPublished inHello, Love·3 min read·--The man I was talking to on Zoom was worried. Things weren’t going well with his girlfriend. “Everything else comes first before me — her sister, her work — and by the time we get to connect, we have 5 minutes and she’s exhausted.”He wanted a relationship where they prioritized each other. But instead of asking for it, he was quietly resentful, which regularly resulted in blow-out fights.
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2 months ago | 
goodmenproject.com | Jessica Gold
While ‘desire discrepancy’ in couples is known and talked about, what’s less addressed is something I see all the time in my work. I call it the ‘growth gap’. It’s where one partner is willing and able to take responsibility, regulate emotionally, and learn effective ways to communicate, while the other is…not. It’s a heartbreaking scenario, for both parties. Here’s the thing. There has been tons of research on what works to keep relationships alive and happy.
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2 months ago | 
goodmenproject.com | Jessica Gold
“But, Jessica, isn’t asking for what I want ‘needy’?”This is the #1 most common objection I get from men in sexless marriage when I challenge them to bring things up with their wife. They would rather quietly stew, frustrated, and wait for her to read their mind. But she definitely feels it if you’re carrying unspoken resentment and frustration and it’s a turn-off that will only perpetuate the situation. So what do you do instead? You ask for what you want without the ‘needy’ energy.
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2 months ago | 
medium.com | Jessica Gold
Jessica Gold, Ph.D.·FollowPublished inHello, Love·3 min read·--While ‘desire discrepancy’ in couples is known and talked about, what’s less addressed is something I see all the time in my work. I call it the ‘growth gap’. It’s where one partner is willing and able to take responsibility, regulate emotionally, and learn effective ways to communicate, while the other is…not. It’s a heartbreaking scenario, for both parties. Here’s the thing.
