Patty Blue Hayes

May 24, 2024 | yourtango.com | Charles J. Orlando |Foojan Zeine |Karen Covy |Anabelle Bugatti |Patty Blue Hayes

Checking the "D" box is a big deal in our society. Most of us get married with the wide-eyed belief that we'll stay hitched forever. So what happens to us on the inside when our dream of a life-long marriage ends in divorce? Experts tell us that we need to grieve. We mourn the loss of who we were with our spouse. And we grieve the loss of the life we're never going to have with our ex.  Many of us also go inward and question the choices we made that led us to the separation in the first place.

Apr 10, 2024 | yourtango.com | Patty Blue Hayes

The abrupt end to my marriage felt like an amputation of my heart. My self-worth had already been diminished for several years. But when his side of the closet was bare, and all I saw was that empty soap dish in the shower as a daily reminder that he wasn't coming back and my husband truly wanted a divorce, I felt worthless, and I lost my sense of purpose in life.

Jan 21, 2024 | deleciousfood.com | Patty Blue Hayes |Magnum Hermosa

We’ve all been there: a long-standing relationship problem resurfaces. In the heat of the moment, we say things we don’t mean. Other times, we are too afraid or too proud to communicate our needs clearly. After a breakup or divorce — and looking back — it’s easier to see where things went wrong and how issues could have been handled differently.

Dec 6, 2023 | yourtango.com | Patty Blue Hayes

Master manipulators are all around us, living like emotional energy vampires just waiting to get their next fix of power and control in their relationships. If you feel drained and confused after interacting with someone and just can't determine exactly why, there's a good chance it's because you've been the victim of emotional manipulation during your time with them.

Jan 17, 2023 | yourtango.com | Patty Blue Hayes

At 2:30 AM, sitting in a rental car outside a bar in Cambridge, MA, my husband said, "I don't think we should be married anymore." An hour earlier, I'd grabbed his phone, curious as to whom he kept texting all night. He told me about two casual sex partners he'd had in the past six months, but my mind raced backward in time to calculate the exact time he began his infidelity. It had started two years ago. After reading back in my journals, I created a map back to the turning point.