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5 days ago |
psychologytoday.com | Steven Stosny |Jessica Schrader
At the beginning of their couple’s treatment, I urge my new clients to focus on feeling lovable, not feeling loved. Most people want to feel loved. But if we don’t feel worthy of it, being loved makes us feel guilty (for getting something we don’t deserve) and inadequate because we can’t return it equally. What makes us feel lovable is expressing compassion, kindness, support, and affection, all of which increase the likelihood of feeling loved.
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6 days ago |
qoshe.com | Steven Stosny
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1 week ago |
qoshe.com | Steven Stosny
A tragic mistake we’re prone to make after suffering hurt is confusing empowerment to heal with blame for causing the injury. Blame devalues your experience and lowers self-value. Empowerment increases the value of your present and future. Blame is about how you got into a hole. Empowerment is acquiring the ability to climb out of the hole by using your strengths, resilience, and ability to create value and meaning in your life.
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2 weeks ago |
qoshe.com | Steven Stosny
Without intervention, healing from trauma, abuse, or betrayal can take a lifetime. When it takes a long time, victim identity emerges from psychic scar tissue, sealing footprints of the past in the depths of our being. Below are the key elements of emotional healing. A healing identity keeps the spotlight on our strengths, resilience, and desire to improve our lives. With a healing identity, we don’t give in to thoughts of damage, unfairness, bad moods, blame, or victim identity.
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3 weeks ago |
qoshe.com | Steven Stosny
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We're unlikely to feel authentic in love without practicing compassion and kindness. Love relationships deteriorate when partners suppress natural sadness, fear, shame, guilt, compassion, and kindness.

Emotional demeanor, not words, is the primary mode of communication in love. Effective communication is a function of connection, caring about each other’s well-being. When partners feel connected, they communicate well. Techniques can help you feel heard, not connected.

Why Blame and Empowerment Rarely Go Together | Psychology Today https://t.co/8QlG5YYMsp