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1 week ago | 
platonicloveletter.substack.com | Platonic Love |Aliza Sir |Aja Frost |Sarah Jacobson
Interview by and . The other day, I (Aliza) was catching up with a friend, who’s newly single at 34. “Dating in my thirties feels completely different,” she told me. “My questions have changed from wanting to know where someone went to college to how they see the future — and that’s on date one!” It made me think about how the questions we ask potential partners evolve as we get older and our priorities shift.
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3 weeks ago | 
platonicloveletter.substack.com | Aja Frost |Aliza Sir
Interview by . Edited by . Artist Elsie lives in a 1976 apartment in Western Australia with her partner, Jay (a writer), and their cat, Yardy. Their home is filled with rich colors, vintage furniture, and lots and lots of art. “I think visitors can be a bit overwhelmed when they first walk in due to the intensity of the colors and all the knickknacks,” says Elsie, “but people are really receptive to spaces that are unapologetically full of character.” Take a look around with us...
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4 weeks ago | 
platonicloveletter.substack.com | Aliza Sir
Written by . Edited by . Every night since last December, my two-and-a-half-year-old son has danced along to the Nutcracker. platonic love is a newsletter by friends, for friends. Last night, he started crying unexpectedly, his small felt Nutcracker dangling from his left hand. “This not Nutcracker,” he said through his tears. My husband and I looked at the Amazon Echo on the kitchen counter. Its screen showed The Nutcracker by Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky. “Not right,” he said again.
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1 month ago | 
platonicloveletter.substack.com | Aja Frost |Aliza Sir |Lindsey Stanberry
If you enjoy reading Platonic Love, there are a few ways to let us know: “like” this post, buy us a coffee, or upgrade to a Paid subscription. We read every single comment, mention, and subscriber note. Thanks for all of your support!Written by . Edited by .
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1 month ago | 
platonicloveletter.substack.com | Aja Frost |Aliza Sir
Written by . Editing and graphics by . Last summer, I (Aja) was at dinner with friends when someone who’d just started Invisalign asked: “But what do you do when you want to… you know?” and gestured at her mouth. “Go to the bathroom and take them out,” another friend said without missing a beat. This was the first time someone had mentioned sex in months, maybe longer — and I had lots of follow-up questions. So we were still going down on our partners? How often?
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2 months ago | 
platonicloveletter.substack.com | Aliza Sir |Aja Frost
Interview by . Edited by . I (Aliza) found Mother Untitled, an online community for women downshifting or pausing their careers, at a pivotal moment — when I had just gone back to work after having my son. It was so comforting and refreshing to hear from women talking about the realities of motherhood: both the sublime and the extremely hard. Mother Untitled’s founder, Neha Ruch, lives in Manhattan with her husband, two children, and dog, Coconut.
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2 months ago | 
platonicloveletter.substack.com | Aja Frost |Aliza Sir |Natalie B. Compton
Written by . Edited by . Here’s what I’ve learned about hosting: The best dinner parties aren’t the ones with the perfect menu or gorgeous table setting — they’re the ones where people feel comfortable enough to ask for seconds, open up about their bad day, and linger over the last bite of cake. This realization didn’t come easily. The first time Sam and I (Aja) hosted a dinner in our tiny Cambridge apartment, I had what can only be described as a complete meltdown over our lack of table mats.
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2 months ago | 
platonicloveletter.substack.com | Aliza Sir |Aja Frost
Moving to Boston, even though I had zero friends or family there and had never lived north of North Carolina. Showing up to parties where I hardly knew anyone. Pretending I was the kind of person that regularly showed up to parties where I hardly knew anyone, until I actually became that person. Relying mostly on my bike and public transportation to get around. The city quickly felt navigable (and like “mine.”)Always wearing my bike helmet. Buying myself a bike helmet that felt sort of cool.
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2 months ago | 
platonicloveletter.substack.com | Aliza Sir |Aja Frost
ICYMI: We’re kicking off this year by sharing our resolutions — what we like about them, what we don’t, what’s worked, etc. Last week, Aja told us aboutthe *really hard* resolution she’s setting for 2025. If you enjoy reading Platonic Love, let us know: like this post, leave a comment, buy us a coffee, or upgrade to a Paid subscription. Thanks for reading!platonic love is a newsletter by friends, for friends. Written by . Edited by .
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2 months ago | 
platonicloveletter.substack.com | Platonic Love |Aliza Sir |Aja Frost |Mikala Jamison
It’s here: the “calm” before the new year. (Or if you have young kids: festive chaos.) For the next few Thursdays, we’re unlocking some of our most popular paid posts from the archives — starting with an updated guide to helping a friend through grief, from people who actually have.
