Jacobina Martin

15 hours ago | mercurynews.com | Judith Martin |Nicholas Martin |Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My wife and I visited a friend and her new partner for the weekend. Her partner drove us to an outing about 20 miles away and went 95 mph on the highway. Despite fearing for our lives, we said nothing. On the way back, however, I politely asked the partner if he could please keep his speed under 80 mph. He immediately turned indignant, got out of the car and told me I should drive and that he would sit in the back with my wife.

1 day ago | mercurynews.com | Judith Martin |Nicholas Martin |Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I worked with someone who was uber passive-aggressive and made my life at work difficult. Fortunately, she retired at the end of the semester. There was a retirement gathering for her with cake and coffee, given by her colleagues. I vowed long ago as division chair to never attend a gathering for this individual, so I skipped it. I was confronted and scolded regarding my absence. I didn’t want to lie, so I said there were personal issues that precluded me from attending.

1 day ago | arcamax.com | Judith Martin |Nicholas Martin |Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I worked with someone who was uber passive-aggressive and made my life at work difficult. Fortunately, she retired at the end of the semester. There was a retirement gathering for her with cake and coffee, given by her colleagues. I vowed long ago as division chair to never attend a gathering for this individual, so I skipped it. I was confronted and scolded regarding my absence. I didn't want to lie, so I said there were personal issues that precluded me from attending.

2 days ago | mercurynews.com | Judith Martin |Nicholas Martin |Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I would love your thoughts on how to respond firmly to these statements. 1. I have three well-behaved children, but when we go anywhere, people remark, “You have your hands full.” It’s said with a negative tone. I love my kids and don’t want them to hear unwelcome remarks. 2. My husband is a larger person, and oftentimes, random strangers will call him “big guy” or “boss.” I think it’s rude to draw attention to his size.

2 days ago | arcamax.com | Judith Martin |Nicholas Martin |Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have been friends with someone for 12 years. We used to do everything together, and were even roommates for a while. Then she met a wealthy guy at the coast. I have met him a handful of times, and he always seems nice. They are now married and live on a yacht. My husband and I spend most of our summer vacations at the same coastal town where they live. They have invited many people to come and spend weekends with them on the boat; however, we have never been invited.